DNF: To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before

Man oh man did I want to love this book. I have seen lots of praise for this book and I have seen the movie on Netflix probably seven or eight times now, and thought I would give the book a try.

Sadly, this was the first DNF book for me of the year. 

Book Lara Jean vs. movie Lara Jean were a bit different — which is normal and understandable. I wonder if I had read the book first if I would have finished it or not. Book Lara Jean felt really young to me, which I understood because after all she is in high school, but for some reason it wasn’t believable to me.

One of the things that drove me absolutely bonkers was she called her dad, ‘daddy’ throughout the book and I couldn’t deal with it. I ended up replacing the word for dad just so I could get through the book (well what I read of it).  It could have been a personal preference, but I stopped calling my dad ‘daddy’ when I was about 10, so to have a high schooler still call her dad ‘daddy’ felt a bit weird to me. I don’t know, maybe it’s just me. 

Secondly, I did not get why Lara Jean was so hung up on Margot’s opinion on very minor things. I understand Margot is the big sister and she kind of took over the household when their mom died, and now with Margot being so far away at college it’s hard. However, Lara Jean seemed to think she couldn’t do certain activities or cook certain foods simply because Margot was no longer there. I can’t really relate to the sibling relationship because I grew up an only child so maybe that’s why I thought it was weird or off because I couldn’t relate. Or maybe it’s weird and not normal. Like I said, I don’t know because #OnlyChildSyndrom.

Finally, the pace of the book was really slow and nothing really happened in the first 100 pages to keep my attention. I kept putting the book down for other books, and I knew I wouldn’t finish it. I ended up stopping around page 122. If I had finished the book I probably would have given it two or three stars.

I’m really bummed I didn’t end up liking this book, and you all know how I feel about DNF-ing books (spoiler: I hate it) but I’m finally deciding it’s okay to not finish a book. After all I have quite the reading list to get to. 😉

Has anyone read this book? I would love to know your thoughts — both good or bad. 

Until next time! 

Screen Shot 2018-12-02 at 10.00.53 AM

16 thoughts on “DNF: To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before

  1. Lara Jean does read really young. I couldn’t get over how she used words like “babyish” or called the guy she liked “Joshie.” She calls a later love interest “Johnny,” which made me want to vomit.

    I think the author was going for an “old-fashioned” vibe, which unfortunately resulted in all the characters coming across naive.

    I feel SO CONFLICTED about this series, because while some of the writing is brilliant, I can’t get over the characters. Is this REALLY how kids in a single-parents, non-religious family act?

    Anyway, I don’t blame you for DNFing this.

    1. As a child who grew up in a single parent, non-religious household I can say that no, that is not how we acted, haha. My mom and I were very much a team and I was very independent/grown up from a young age. We worked a lot like Lorelai and Rory Gilmore, but I wasn’t as annoying as Rory (or I don’t think so 😉 ) and we didn’t have rich grandparents to bail us out, haha. But the core relationship between Lorelai and Rory very much resembles my mom and I. I used to watch reruns of Gilmore Girls when I first moved to Seattle when I missed home.

      I think subconsciously the reason why I didn’t like Lara Jean bugged was how naive she was with being in a single parent home. The only difference is I didn’t have any siblings, so maybe with Margot being the eldest she bore the brunt of having to grow up early leaving Lara Jean and Kitty to maintain their naivety. Who knows.

  2. Personally, I loved this book — but I can 100% understand where you’re coming from. & yes, the ‘daddy’ thing was also a bit strange to me. Some books aren’t for some people, so I’m glad you’re feeling better about DNF’ing books!

    1. Thanks! I wanted to like this SO bad. I’ve always had a hard time with YA contemporary fiction — even when I was considered to be in the “YA age range” so maybe it’s just me. I definitely have some other books I’m going to try, but maybe YA contemporary fiction is just not for me.

  3. Great review! I actually DNF’d this one a few years ago when I read it for the first time. And it was the same reason, I couldn’t get with her calling her dad “daddy” either.

    I honestly wouldn’t have picked this up again if it wasn’t for the movie, and even then it was just okay to me.

    1. Glad to hear the daddy thing bugs you too! It was just weird to me, and I couldn’t get passed it. I really liked the movie though which is why I wanted to try the book. Oh well, you win some you lose some I guess,

    1. That seems to be everyone’s general consensus about this so I’m happy to hear I wasn’t the only one to think it was a bit off. I’m glad you liked the book, though!

  4. I really liked Book 1 but couldn’t get through Book 2. It was super boring!!! I basically DNFed then skimmed. I understand where people are coming from in not loving this. I just loved reading about a single parent family with an MC who is sort of an introverted, homebody like me. It’s super fluffy and cutesy. Not normally my thing. It’s the book my “teen-self” wanted. Critically speaking, it’s a little slow at times and the Genevieve rival stuff drove me nuts.

    1. ahh bummer. I’m wondering if I read it when I was a teenager if I would have liked it. I think I’m just getting a bit older now where it’s hard for me to relate to the high school age. I think if Lara Jean was in college then maybe I would have liked it a bit more, but who knows.

  5. Pingback: January Wrap Up

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s